Good morning, and welcome to Inspiration Corner!
Today, I’ve got a longer blog for you, so bear with me. I’m going to tackle the question, “Does everything happen for a reason?”
I used to believe that sometimes the universe just dumps crap on you and sometimes it showers you with love. But, given that I do believe in destiny, and in fate, how do I reconcile those beliefs? Well, I had an epiphany the other day: everything does happen for a reason. There’s never any ‘out of the blue’ event.
I’m going to use myself as an example.
Several years before I left Berkley/they left me, I knew that things were precarious. I watched other authors getting dropped—authors who had been making them good money—and I saw my own advances being stripped back. But I didn’t take heed. I had made them a lot of money and I decided to just sit tight. During this time, I made friends with several indie authors and I saw how happy and successful they were. But…I didn’t listen.
You see, I wasn’t happy with Berkley, not for the last few years I was with them. But I was afraid to step out of what I knew.
To be honest, I was so unhappy that I always kept noise going—the TV, music, whatever, because when I sat in silence, trying to rest, exhaustion hit me so hard that I would burst into tears. I was so unhappy, but I felt like I had no right to be.
I was working so hard, trying to push my career forward more but with no real publisher support, that I felt like I was running in the dark. I’m a damned good writer, and I was doing my best to gain traction, but I had hit a glass ceiling and couldn’t break through. There’s a lot more to this, but for now, leave it at that.
Fast forward a couple years and boom, (again, there’s a lot more to this), I’m gearing up for contract negotiations when the publisher changes their mind and tells me they don’t want any more Otherworld, Whisper Hollow, or Fly By Night.
I tried to come up with ideas for what they did want—thrillers and mysteries, but my heart wasn’t in it. Those aren’t genres I write, at least not without a paranormal aspect.
And that’s when I realized that my days at Berkley were at an end. Other publishers were also tightening up, not buying much paranormal, and when I looked at the possibilities, I realized that I wouldn’t be able to make a living the way I needed to in trad publishing anymore.
So, I dove into indie publishing, and spent the first year in absolute panic until I realized: I can do this. I can make a living while writing what I want. And then, as the panic began to subside, I realized: I’m happy.
I’ve been indie two years as of this month, and I’m so much happier. I write what I love, I write what I want to write, I’m working harder but more joyfully. I’m actually doing better financially than I was with Berkley. And you know what?
Now I can sit in silence and…not burst into tears. I can sit in silence now and just breathe, and feel calm. And that speaks volumes.
So, I tell you this long story to make my point.
When I left Berkley, it felt like I was being punished. I had been dragged around by my nose (again, not going to list how but trust me, it happened). But…I could have paid attention to the signs. I could have listened to the nagging feelings that “This ship is starting to sink.”
But I didn’t.
So events pushed me to taking a step that I probably should have taken a couple years before.
And make no mistake, it was hard—very hard. I had to fight my fears. I had to fight feelings of being a ‘failure’ because I didn’t want to adapt to what the publisher wanted. I had to learn so much, and unlearn trad ways that don’t work in indie. Hell, I’m STILL learning.
I contended (and still do) with angry readers who decided I was betraying them because they wanted me to only write more Otherworld, or to write the series that Berkley still had control of, and because I was no longer in mass-market form they could buy cheaper at Walmart.
But regardless of all the difficulties going indie brought…it provided me with a bright light at the end of the tunnel. I now believe this was my destined path. Trad gave me many things, and a great start. But I’m now on the path I need to be. I’ve always been a rogue, I’ve always been a rebel, and I like doing things my own way. I have more control now over whether I succeed or fail. Success is now on my own shoulders and that’s a damned sight better than desperately waiting and hoping that somebody else will deign to promote me. Are there pitfalls? You betchya! But they’re ones I can usually do something about.
So, did the upset with Berkley happen for a reason?
Definitely. On a practical level—I didn’t pay attention to the writing on the wall. On the level of destiny: Oh hell, yes. Do I regret anything? Yeah, I regret being too afraid to take the steps I knew I should be taking when I first saw what was going on. But life’s too short to dwell on regrets. I wasn’t ready yet, and I needed to be kicked in the ass.
So, what are some areas in your lives that you have stalled on? That you’ve avoided making necessary changes in? Remember: you have control over your own actions. So, what are you putting off doing that you know you need to do in order to further your goals/happiness? Can you take steps now to avoid a harsh lesson in the future?
3 thoughts on “Inspiration Corner: When You Know You Need To Change Things Up…”
I’m afraid I have the opposite problem. I don’t stall, I just charge full speed ahead and devil take the hindmost. Not the best approach when I should stop and think it out beforehand. Thankfully the Gods/Goddesses have smiled upon me and I haven’t killed myself or others, but I think a lot of people were really glad when I retired and now I only endanger myself when I take off.
Definitely believe in Destiny, and really glad I’ve lasted this long.
So glad you decided to go Indie. Really have no use for corporations, or anyone really, who tries to rein us in when we know better!
First, I want to say I’m proud of you. Like me you have to figure it out for yourself most of the times. I went from thinking my fave author quit 2 years ago to seeing you grow greatly in many things. I thank you because in a way you made me grow too.
As for something I’ve stalled on, I’m am one of those people who are very reluctant in walking away from a bad job, hoping against hope it will get better. This last time after I came back from neck surgery, I listened when I kept seeing the pieces fall as they did with the organizational changes. I got proactive and started looking for something else which I started today. I’m giving notice to the old Wed when I go in. I was still reluctant to look elsewhere but the signs kept telling me to go and I acted quicker then usual. Hopefully this means I’ve learned from the past.
Areas I’ve stalled on? Oh I know some. For years, I had trouble getting work, most often it was people telling me I don’t have the experience, getting compliments where they’re saying I think like someone who has done the job for 20 years, but they’re going with someone else, and so on. I finally got a job, is it an ideal job? Nope, but it’s a job with people who I do like being around. However, it’s not in either of my training fields and it bores me to tears (I seriously spend most of my days trying not to fall asleep at my desk while I’m working). But, despite that, I’ve not taken that and moved forward, despite people telling me that my careers want people in my fields and they’re not caring about experience. I have stopped myself saying, no, I can’t, if I don’t have this job, I will go back to what I was for years. And yes, I can take steps, I’m finally getting those steps, though more slowly than my family and friends like (but they understand that I have more trouble adapting partly due with my OCD and needing a strict schedule to keep me in control). One of the steps I’ve done, I’ve updated my resume and pulled my portfolio together. I’ve got a friend who wants to use their employee referral on me for their company and I’m going to take it. I’m also working on something that has the potential for a job in my field that’s even more of a fit for me, though the extra experience would definitely help. So, I am taking those steps and it will get me where I want, now if only I could make myself move faster on those steps.