Some time ago, I pulled back. I stopped visiting Twitter, I let my assistant take over on FB. I stuck to my blog and found myself growing calmer. Things felt peaceful in my little part of the world and I wasn’t stressing over the stuff that doesn’t matter in the long scheme of things. I had more time and energy to focus on my work.
Then I did something I shouldn’t have. I got nostalgic.
I remembered the fun I used to have on Twitter. I ignored the memory of the stress I ended up with there. And right after that, I decided that my assistant needed help, instead of letting her and Samwise do their jobs on FB. So I went back to Twitter and I started hanging out in the FB group. And that’s not a good thing. I’m not really geared toward massive social interaction on a daily basis.
For one thing, Twitter—it’s not fun anymore, at least in my part of the woods. I love getting breaking news from there. I dread getting breaking news. Because honestly, I suffer from information overload. And on FB? Honestly, it’s too easy for me to lose my temper, especially when people know it’s a moderated group and then complain about that moderation. Sorry, my house. My rules. My group, my blog, my rules. Or I find out people are pirating my books. Or a friend shows a side of themselves I wish I hadn’t seen. Or…or…or…yeah, you get the picture.
So yesterday, on Twitter, somebody didn’t like something I said and decided to attack my writing (to my face) in response. Block. And tonight, on Twitter, another troll decided to target me—and it was over something totally innocuous. Block. Tomorrow? It will be somebody else. Because there’s always another troll hiding under the bridge. The damned things breed like flies.
About half an hour ago, I read a blog on Medium about the decline of Twitter, and I remembered—um, yeah. That’s the way I feel. And I realized that I’ve been hyper stressed again. I’ve already got job stress, and stress over bills, and stress over life in general. I don’t need to add to my stress needlessly.
So, yeah, this time, it’s for good. I have waffled more than once, and each time it’s easier to slide back into the forest. To peek out through my blog instead. And I think—I will start using the forums for answering FAQs so that the info is easier to access. That way you won’t have to search for some common answers and my recipes, and so forth.
So I return FB to Jenn and Samwise. As far as the Twitterverse—oh babe, I loved you, but you’re no good for me and I know it. You can have my links, but as Bette from the Fly By Night series would say, “Sugar lips, you’ll have to do without me. I’m too much for you and you’re too much for me.”
21 thoughts on ““I’m no good for you, you’re no good for me…””
I still haven’t joined FB or Twitter. From the sound of things, I should stay off Twitter completely! Do what you need to do. We understand and support you!
Good for you!
I’m glad you are taking care of yourself.
Please do what is best for you! I love your books and no matter how much we will miss you on FB, you being happy and healthy and as stress free as possible is what is most important! I can’t wait for Autumn Thorns and Darkness Raging! Bless you Yasmine!
Trolls hide behind keyboards they’re too afraid to show thier real face you or me like a real man or woman. There is one truth in the universe Karma will get you. Thank you for your books you take me into a whir thank you for your books.
You are so right about twitter, it has declined so much! FB I mainly play games and have a couple of sites, Otherworldly being one, that I engage in. Love your blogs and your world’s you have created!!
Social media sites are time and soul suckers. I really like your blog Yasmine. I have for a long time. I look forward to every book you have coming out. Walk away from the trolls with your head and middle finger held high! 🙂
I agree.. I was never into twitter, but I used to love FB.. Now its .. Different, and I don’t like it. I very rarely see posts from the sites I have liked. Most of them are political in nature and it really makes me stress out and worry all the time. I have also been moving away from FB, I play more WoW to keep me occupied so I don’t slide back into FB LOL.. WoW is my outlet 🙂
Never have tweeted nor read any, other than those Ellen reads on her show. Even FB is getting overwhelming for me. I agree…there are some who can take it and some whose minds are quite active enough on their own, thank you very much!
Good for you for pulling back!
Definitely will miss you but you HAVE to do what is best for you. Besides,lol, that will hopefully leave more time for you to read your awesome books. Oh yeah, and could you hurry…I can’t wait for them to come out. FYI…I love Bette 😉
I hear all that! You gotta do what’s good for you. I’ve been trying to limit my Fb use to particular goals but so far not terribly successfully. I’m working on a different approach to see if that will help. You have found yours. Good for you!
When you mention using the forums for answering FAQs, do you mean the group on Fb or on your website? Thanks!
The ones on my website. A lot of people don’t realize we have them, and while we’ve had to change the format to register to avoid spammers, it’s an easy-to-control space and easy to find info in.
I have to agree about Twitter. I myself go there rarely anymore. I do, sometimes, miss the people that I used to see there.
I find myself even going to Facebook less. While I love my friends there, most of which I originally met on line and some of them I have now met in person, I am tired of seeing the same stuff over and over. I have reconnected with some long lost friends and relatives there though, which is why I continue to use Facebook.
I hope you can once again find your calm again and that the things you stress about go away.
Yasmine, I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s always some bad guy that ruins it for the superfans. I have enjoyed your posts and interactions on your pages and groups, and also read your blogs. You will be missed on FB, I do not have Twitter. I have been very lucky to not have any FB drama, so I stay there in moderation. I think not
Getting any notifications beeping incessantly has helped me stay in control of it. Thank you for opening up to us about this. We know you must do what you must to stay focused, and I respect that. Can’t wait for Autumn Thorns!
I’ll be around my blog here, and Samwise and Jenn will be active in the group. 🙂
I’m so sorry that the trolls won’t leave you alone. You are a fantastic writer and I love your work. I will sorely miss your interaction in the group, it always gave me a total nerd girl squee moment whenever you commented or liked something I posted. I fully understand your reasons and first and foremost you need to take care of you. Love light and peace to you. Blessed be.
Unfortunately the trolls are active no matter who you are…all it takes is one person who decides they’re bored and pissed off. 🙁
Me, too! I loved getting replies from Yasmine, abd is squee adhd giggle for a while. Then wonder if I was beginning to seem like a creepy stalker chick. Social anxiety sucks
I too would do the same as you have. You are a sensitive and caring soul. It hurts when people rip apart something you are so proud of. Well, I’ll tell you what my hubby told me, “the hell with them”. You do what heart tells you. Don’t change.
I will never understand why people think that its acceptable to say things online they would never say in person or to be mean, cruel and obnoxious to another person period. I am so sorry that these “people” make something that should be fun and pleasurable a nightmare instead. I will miss seeing you on twitter but I completely understand and support your choice to avoid the a@#holes entirely. I wish people would just live and let live.
I’ve enjoyed the interactions we’ve had the last week or so, but taking care of you and yours is important. I’m glad you’re doing what you need to for your sake.