Let’s have coffee together, and while we do, I’m going to tell you a few secrets about myself. (Waits for you to run and get your coffee or tea or milk or whatever you’re drinking)…
Most of my life I’ve been a pessimist. My childhood had a lot of abuse in it, and my first marriage was abusive. I got used to looking at the bleak side of things. Oh, I always believed in my ability to write, and I believed in my good friends, but overall I found myself expecting the worst. I reasoned with myself, that way, I wouldn’t be disappointed when the worst happened.
And I want to stress: when it happened. Not if. Over the years, even with success along the way, I still focused on this.
But, then something changed. When I went indie, a couple of years ago, I was absolutely petrified. If it wasn’t for my best friends Carol and Jo, and Samwise standing behind me and believing in me, I don’t think I would have made it through. The three of them shored me up, like lifesavers in the ocean near a drowning woman.
Somewhere along the way, Carol and I started working with the concept of the Law of Attraction. At it’s most simple basis, this is the basic belief that what you expect, is what you attract. Expect bad things to happen? They’ll happily comply. Expect to fail? Chances are you will.
Now, this really isn’t as simple as some people make it out to be. Just because you want something, doesn’t mean you’re going to get it. But if you believe in yourself, if you believe that you can draw joy/love/money/success/whatever into your life, and you do the work, there’s a good chance you’ll manifest it. This is truly magick in action.
So, I started trying to think positive. When I felt fear, I would acknowledge it and then let it go. I reminded myself that I’ve always managed to make a success of my life despite the odds. I reminded myself that I am capable, I am intelligent, and I have an incredible wealth of talent, drive, and tenacity. When I wavered, I would talk to one of my friends and they would reassure me that yes, I could do this and push me to stand up to my negative thoughts.
So, things have worked out. Even though I want to increase the success I’ve had, I’m confident, I’m on the right path, and I’m happy. I have gone from mourning the way my career used to be to embracing the way things are and fully enjoying them. A change in attitude has made all the difference in the world.
The energy you put out in the world will be reflected back to you.
Think about the phrases you use on a daily basis. You may not even realize you’re saying them. Things like:
- I don’t know what I expected.
- It figures that things would work out this way.
- What did I expect?
- That’s just the way things are.
- Life sucks.
- Fuck my life.
- Wouldn’t you know it?
- If it can go wrong, it will go wrong.
All of these phrases reflect a mindset focused on accepting that the worst will happen. That negativity is a way of life. When we look at life through the filter of negativity, eventually, that’s all we see.
And one thing I know for sure: if you stop being grateful for the things that are good in your life, if you ignore them in favor of the bad, the Universe will stop bringing you good things. A little gratitude goes a hell of a long way.
So find the good in your life and celebrate it. Quit qualifying the good with negative modifiers. “Oh, yeah, that was good but…” Stop tearing down the positive things because you’re afraid they’ll vanish if you enjoy them.
Now I’m not saying that I don’t get angry, and I do take action when somebody screws me over. But, anymore, I focus on bringing positive growth, creativity, and passionate energy into my life and into the world. I have seen this in action and I try to embody this concept now. When a challenge arises, I meet it head on, and I expect to succeed.
I have come a long way from the scared, hurt, and angry little girl and teenager that I was, and from the bruised and emotionally battered woman that I once was. And I’m rejoicing in the changes.
I challenge you: Tell me something good in your life in the comments. Don’t qualify it. No buts…or howevers…just one good thing unreservedly and without qualification. Do it now. No one’s life is totally devoid of positive things.