About two years ago, I made the decision to go indie as an author. It was one of the scariest decisions I’ve ever made. And today, two years later, I realize that I’m still thinking of myself as a newbie in the industry — the indie industry that is. But that’s not true, when I think about it.
I had a very successful year last year. I have three new series that I love writing, that I can take as far as I want to without having to deal with my ex-publisher. I’m paying the bills, I’m dictating my own schedule, and choosing my own cover artists and I’ve hired my own editor and I’m figuring out the promotion and advertising side of things. Recently, I enrolled in an intensive business course to boost my understanding of the business and marketing side.
So you know what? I’m not a newbie. I may not have all the answers, but nobody does. I may not know everything I want to about this side of the industry, but I’m learning. And most important: I am enjoying my work, I am paying my bills, and I feel like I have more control over my life. Which means I’m feeling like a success.
And that means: I believe in myself as an indie author.
When I look at what I’ve done over the past two years, yes I have made a few mistakes, but overall I have done an incredible amount of work and I’ve enjoyed almost all of it. So I need to stop thinking of myself as on shaky ground, and start trusting my instincts, and start trusting that I know what I’m doing. And when I have questions, I know where to go to find the answers.
If you don’t believe in yourself, no matter how far along you are in a hobby or a business or anything else in life, you’ll always be questioning yourself. So start focusing on the successes that you have, on the things you do right, and let the mistakes become learning experiences rather than a board to beat yourself over the head with.
Because no matter how much somebody else cheers us on, until we believe in ourselves, we will never truly feel capable.
Now I know this is hard to do at times, but every day sit down and in a journal, write down three things you did right that day. Three things you did well. Three things that you are proud of.
I don’t care if it takes a little stretching to find them, just find three things. Even if it’s something like, “I spent time with my kids today and played a game with them.” Or, “I made a fabulous dinner for my family today.” Because everything counts. All of our successes go into making us who we are. So look at yourself in the mirror, and congratulate yourself for all the things you’ve done right.
Because the more you focus on your success, the more success you’ll have. Like attracts like. Now, here, I want you to tell me three things about yourself that you do well–no qualifications! Ready! Set! Go!