Good morning and welcome to Inspiration Corner. Today I want to talk about motivation. Now generally, positive motivation is better than negative. I’m not a fan of negative reinforcement, but sometimes wake up calls can do wonders. I’ve had several throughout my life, but I going to talk about the most recent one.
The Histamine Intolerance (HIT) is a fact of my life. I have finally accepted that fact. In case you don’t know what HIT is, here’s a two-part blog that I wrote about it: Part one, and Part two. HIT is a convoluted condition, and a mind numbing balancing act.
Unfortunately, HIT also makes it very difficult to do the low-carb that I need to keep my blood sugar in check. I can’t have lunch meats, eggs trigger me, leftovers are out, I can’t have nuts or nut butters, no fish or shellfish, all legumes are out, soy is out, no pork or pork products, so my choices are limited.
I’ve been dancing around, trying to find ways to make this work. And I know there is a way, but it requires sticking to a rigid schedule. And so far, I’ve been resisting that, I think out of anger. First, I have the food allergies, then I slipped into type II diabetes brought on by stress affecting my hormones, and then came the histamine intolerance. Or rather, the HIT came to the forefront. Both my doctor and I believe that I’ve always had it, given all my past symptoms, but it’s just never been this full-blown.
So, yeah, I’ve been kind of having a temper tantrum of sorts.
But, a little over four weeks ago I took the drastic (for me) step of actually giving up my lattes. Coffee beans and caffeine both create inflammation and the inflammation makes my joints and muscles extremely sore.
(Before anybody suggests switching to tea, it is off-limits with histamine intolerance and it makes me sick as a dog. And the coffee beans themselves cause inflammation, so decaf still presents a problem).
I have tried to give up coffee several times before, and always slipped within a week or two, going back to my beloved lattes. However, something this time shifted.
Maybe I’m just exhausted by the muscle aches and the joint pain. Maybe I’m finally ready to do everything I need to in order to feel better. Whatever the case, I’ve tucked my espresso machine away in the garage and I no longer drink coffee.
I also took up yoga again. I am having wonderful results with it. It calms me down, it’s helping me not feel so tense, but last night, I came to another ‘blinking light’/wake up call. I realized that my weight is really impacting my joints.
Now, I’ve lost a lot of weight over the past few years, but I still have a lot of extra weight on my body. And my joints have been damaged enough through the years from one accident or another, and from the inflammation, that they just aren’t able to handle it well. So, last night I decided to face the fact that I really need to get some more weight off.
I don’t expect ever be “thin” and that doesn’t matter to me. I’m not even looking to get down to a size 10 or twelve—I haven’t been that size since I was about twelve years old. But…if I can get myself down to a size 16-18, my joints will be much happier.
Which brings me back to the low-carb, which is the only way my body will give up weight. (Please note: I am NOT looking for any advice on losing weight/etc.. I know what works for my body, and my doctor agrees).
The low carb is also best for my blood sugar and my blood work. I thrive on it. HOWEVER…with the HIT, it means that I’m going to have to stick to a very strict schedule of eating. And I hate having to answer to the clock for food. Basically, it means that I have to cook small amounts of meat about four or five times a day.
Which is a pain in the ass. It especially seems like a pain to cook one small hamburger patty, or too small pieces of chicken breast, that many times per day.
But, this morning I woke up accepting that I want to underscore the help the yoga is giving to my body. I need to do this. The negative motivation from the joint pain and muscle aches has become an inspiration for me.
So now, I’m turning the negative into a positive. I did that with giving up coffee. Instead of focusing on “I have to give up coffee” I made it a choice: “I don’t drink coffee.”
So I’m going to do that with sticking to a strict eating regime. “I choose to give my body the nutrition it needs in order to function best” rather than “I have to eat this way.”
I am also carving out a treat day a couple times a month, because it’s important to have that safety valve. But even then, I will be planning my meals out in advance so I don’t just go off beam.
I’m not sure exactly where I’m going with this today, except to say that sometimes negative motivation can help us make necessary changes. But then, we turn it around into a positive focus. And we don’t embark on these changes out of self-hatred or loathing, but out of the desire to become the best we can be. To feel good, to strengthen our health, to accomplish a positive change. So yes, I’m making changes so I can feel stronger and better. And if that requires more discipline, so be it.
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6 thoughts on “Inspiration Corner: Using Negative Motivation in a Positive Way”
Its funny how we feel angry when we have to give up something that we like, but is harmful to us. Only until we have a mindset shift can we actually make the change, glad its not just me
I realized something similar. My body doesn’t like high impact exercise anymore because of degenerative disc disease (I miss doing my ballet warm-up routines but until I get the flexiblity down its a no-go). Sometimes just walking is painful but if I want to not have surgery (AGAIN) then I must do yoga and take my supplements so I can walk the neighborhood which I love to do in autumn. So I made a plan, I put my supplements in next to my toothpaste so I remember to take them (I brush my teeth when I’m supposed to take them) then watch a show on Hulu so the supplements and breakfast go down then then do yoga. To make this a positive, I’ve relied on routine and my feline companions because they know mom needs to get up and do yoga. Weird thing is all 4 of them, including the 4 week old Lucky, get in there and help as well as do their yoga. We’ve made it kitty bonding time to make it positive. My hubby even gets in there when he’s off from work. He says its support for me but I know his back is feeling better too. Yoga used to be boring for me but I think it was because there wasn’t a whole lot of movement and no one doing it with me. Now when people ask me why the supplements and yoga I tell them I know they make me feel better and the yoga is a family activity that brings me joy. I don’t think anyone can go wrong with that.
Thank you for sharing so much of yourself. Changing the focus is a great way to help motivate change. I will try to do that myself. I hope you feel so much better, that you are able to stick to healthy eating.
I need to go low-carb myself, because my inflammation feeds off of sugar and my joints have been destroyed by eating fruit. My hormones are so bad I have a “moon face.” It’s not easy to go low-carb as a vegan, but I can do it. And so can you. Witches are a very determined people when we focus our intentions on feeling healthy.
Thank you, Yasmine, for this truly inspirational post. It’s so hard sometimes to make the changes that benefit us, and I really appreciate you sharing your revelation.